I went to the doctor last week just to feel out the situation and see what he had to say. I've been assigned (I have Kaiser) to a new gynecologist since I moved to VA and I hadn't yet made his acquaintance. I make it a point to "meet" my OBGYN at least once before we get really "acquainted". When I showed up the receptionist double checked that I KNEW that this OBGYN was a man. Yes, I was aware. Was I OK with that? Ummm, yeah.And I have heard my girlfriends say that they prefer a woman gynecologist - but I have to say, I don't get it. I don't ever want to confide in someone about my lady business and have that person thinking - "Wow, thank GOD that NEVER happens to me, how embarrassing." Or, inspecting the goods and thinking, "Wow, I am so glad I don't have THAT!" I think of a male gyno as classic car enthusiast. He may not have one, but that doesn't mean he can't appreciate it.
And the lesbian factor - I simply don't want ladies' hands in my lady business. Ewww. Sorry.
Anyway, the subject did come up, because, you know, I'm 33 AND THE CLOCK IS TICKING PEOPLE. He was totally cool.
He indicated that the clock was totally not even ticking and wouldn't be ticking for another 2 or 3 years (whew) AND that the doctor (my last primary care physician who TOLD me that - in fact, her exact words were "fish or cut bait") was totally wrong because he treats women for infertility all the time and I shouldn't even be concerned.
But he did ask, so I confessed that F ands I have been making a concerted effort for awhile now. Soooo, no big deal. Apparently there is only a 20% chance of conception occurring during every cycle. BINGO!
However, however, however...
Because F had (6 years ago) testicular cancer and lost one testicle, he ordered a semen analysis JUST TO RULE IT OUT.
When the test comes back absolutely normal, we can just proceed as usual and if I'm not knocked up by January (an official year although I quit my birth control pills long before that), I should go back and have a talk with him.
So F has to get up at the butt crack of dawn tomorrow (bless his heart) and drive to BFE to (yes into a cup and all that). Poor guy.
Delivering that test order to F was a little nerve-wracking.
A. Would he be angry that I discussed his medical history with my gyno? (This is a very personal issue for F; he doesn't discuss it with ANYONE. Most of our friends and family don't know. The only way I found out was, well anyway...)
B. Would he be angry that I was discussing our personal bedroom 'bidness' with a stranger (a stranger with an MD, but all the same, F is a VERY private person).
C. He has to YOU KNOW IN A CUP.
But, he surprised me, as usual, and took it like a trooper. He even called and made the appointment himself and took the earliest one available, even though that meant driving a considerable distance at the butt-crack of dawn to get in first thing. :sigh: Sometimes, I just love that man.
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